Tonight while at my wife’s parents apartment for Christmas dinner my kids were horsing around with their grandfather on his bed. Just normal kid stuff jumping around, pillow fights, grand pa knocking them down with his feet etc. But the random thought that jumped into my head was that no matter what relationship I have with them that this man will always be “more” related [biologically] to them than me. The thought stayed with me enough this evening that I thought I would post it here. In reality this is a fact and nothing more but it still is a fact.
I can't argue with that. I can only believe and hope that it won't adversely affect your relationship with them. Ultimately, that's what means the most.
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I agree with Bea.
ReplyDeleteHe will never have the relationship you have with them and that is what will mean the most at the end of the day.
I've thought about that same thing when talking to my dad and brother about the baby. It makes me wonder if my husband has too.
ReplyDeleteJust to clarify the thought when I first thought it was not painful. Just a recognition of fact. And as Vee said above my relationship with my kids is a separate animal from what they have with their Grandpop. Just seeing them send me off in the morning or how they welcome me at night makes me realize how much they love me and that I am their dad.
ReplyDeleteMy friends are going with donor eggs next month, and I find your posts helpful in keeping me aware of things they might feel in the next few years if they're lucky enough to have it work. Thx.
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