Sunday, January 01, 2023

Whose Story ?






There is an interesting article in today's WP advice column regarding sharing baby news after TTC issues that can easily be applied to donor conception or a number of scenarios where one family member looks to share news of another person's story.  

In summary, a couple have struggled to achieve a pregnancy after so many years.  They inform one set of parents they are pregnant and grandma-to-be announces over social media without permission.  Young couple demands the posting be taken down.  Hurt grandma-to-be feels her joy has been stunted and writes WP advice columnist.  The responding article perfectly addressed / admonished grandma-to-be.  

Determining whose story it is to tell is tricky.  In my own case my own DC children are now young adults, 18 1/2 and soon to be 21 years of age.  How much of their donor conception is mine to tell?  My answer to myself is only my perspective can I tell.  I can no longer share their current thoughts or revelations with discussing it with them.  That does not mean this blog is finished. It just means their story is not mine to report.  My reactions and experiences with reference to their story are still mine to share where and when appropriate.  

I love my kids.  I want to help and protect them.  Right now we are living our lives.  I am still an advocate for parents and for DC individuals.  It's just the story I tell has to take everything into context.  And first and foremost the relationship with my children is sacrosanct and I protect that before all else.  Even if my telling a story gives me personal joy.  
Read the linked article.  It's a good one. 

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