Sunday, November 18, 2007

Have I done enough for now regarding my children conceived via donor insemination?

I guess it’s been about 3 months now since I have updated this blog on a daily basis. I realized today I am a member of nine yahoo groups other than the DI Dads yahoo group. When this topic took up more of my non working awake hours I would spend my time reading everything trying to learn as much as I can and see if I am missing something that would help me explain everything to my kids. Lately since I have taken a breather when I go back to these other groups I find myself partly overwhelmed and partly detached.

I certainly don't feel detached from my kids as they occupy, happily, all my time when I am home. It's just that the DI issue is not and I recognize should not be a part of my or their every waking moment. The reality of their conception just becomes another medical (and social fact) fact of their lives and for the moment I am leaving it as that. The “telling” conversations will certainly continue when the issue appropriately presents itself. But I wonder sometimes if I am supposed to do something more now and what and why.

1 comment:

Unknown said...


I can't speak for your kids, and I won't presume to do so. However, as a donor conceived child, I wouldn't want my dad to spend this much time on donor conception.

Honesty is good, be open, but don't think it's going to be a huge deal in their lives. I wonder about my donor, and I've spoken with my father about it multiple times, but I refuse to have either of us spend very much time on the subject. It's simply not worth letting my life revolve around this one incidental matter of my conception.
Personally, I feel it's not worth your time to worry overmuch about your children's conception. Just be their dad.

P.S. As you can tell, I'm back from a long hiatus. I think I'm about to take a big step back from the DI community. I'm getting annoyed again, and that's not good.