There are many who feel that in a fashion parents like me essentialy brain wash our kids to feel OK about their conception and who later in life will, in their words, feel their loss greater. I fully believe it depends on the child so I push back when I hear blanket statements.
I wish my kids lived closer to their half sibling as I do wish all three of them could spend more time together. Seeing how the Donor 1096 sibs act with each other was a nice way to spend a few minutes during my lunch hour.
Eric Jacobson featured in the video is a member of the DI Dads Yahoo Group and I want to thank him for sharing this video:
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Thank you for posting this - it is good to see that families can and do make this whole thing work, despite it being sometimes difficult. And also good to see a media portrayal that is balanced and fair. I hope you continue to draw comfort from stories like this, and may you and your family one day serve as an example of how to handle the many complex issues facing people who choose sperm donation (like me!)
I found this very moving!
I am planning to meet up with all our half-siblings some day as well...
It gave me strength that my desire for an extended family - to celebrate rather than ignore those links - is the right thing. Here in the UK, I've encountered far more reticence from other donor parents about matching.
"There are many who feel that in a fashion parents like me essentialy brain wash our kids to feel OK about their conception and who later in life will, in their words, feel their loss greater."
Their sentiment is wrong. We donor-kids have lost nothing and have, in fact, gained a great deal. Anyone that has the free time to spend whining about how they were conceived should take a deep breath, realize how loved they are and get on with living.
I mean, it's not like having a healthy world view is a disease...
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