The President was donor conceived ...

I saw an article on Kveller this morning where the writer wanted to revoke the right of the media to continuously reference the children of anyone as adopted. She noted with respect to celebrities that when describing that celebrity's children it had to state how many were via adoption and how many via birth etc. Will my son when his parentage is referenced be always followed by the phrase "he was donor conceived"? Ugh. I hope not. 

Terminology Hangups

Today I saw blog posts both either having an issue with terminology or I think playing games using terminology. 

The first posted on Kveller had to do with labeling kids or birth story with the word Adopted. Her point was why we must always reference kids as adopted. She cited examples of articles re Nicole Kidman and Angelina Jolie and numerous acquaintances that come up to her and announced they were adopted.

I agree that such classifications are usually unnecessary and create a second class stigma. My kids for the record don't reference themselves and I don't either aside from this blog's title. They are my kids. I pay child support to prove it. 

The second article I saw on Twitter retweeted which blamed the sexual revolution for a host of reproductive medicine issues as the writer saw it. I did not think using that term as a catch all was appropriate. The points made may have held worth but I just felt the writer latched onto the term as a hook to draw people in. Felt contrived. My personal opinion. 

Otherwise Happy Canada Day to my friends up North !!!!

Hello, I am still here

It's been a while since I have posted. I don't have anything new or profound to say. But let's ramble and see where I go. 

Yesterday at work a colleague and I got into a conversation where I stated my kids are donor conceived. I can't remember now what we were talking about. All I know now is that stating this feels as normal as anything. They are still my kids with all the pluses and minuses a parent feels about their kids. It's just a part of our story as crazy wild as any family's story is. 

I miss seeing my kids everyday but that's a divorce story and that pain, although I have accepted that, never leaves. I did learn this week of another DI Dad who is going down this road. I had wondered what the statistics on this are. I will say of the DI Dads who have divorced it appears the reasons are generally not DI related. It seems we are just part of the same statistical percentage as the rest of the married population who end up down this path.

But as dad of DI kids I do worry about their psyches as they already had enough to process with their DI stories to add being a child of divorce. Which has the greater impact only time will tell. I am sure it varies with each and every individual.